Pause VIII, Day 4 A Collect For When We Struggle To Forgive
Pause VIII ~ Day Four
His Words Before Ours
1 John 1:6-10
Ephesians 4:32-5:2
Matthew 18:21-35
Luke 6:27-36
Psalm 103:10-14
Oh, friends.
[Big sigh]
Forgiveness is hard.
To be honest, we’ve been in a lifelong wrestling match, forgiveness and I.
I’ve read the books on forgiveness and participated in the Bible studies on forgiveness and exegeted the Bible verses on forgiveness and listened to the sermons on forgiveness. (Maybe you have, too?)
And still, I’ve struggled. (Maybe you do, too?)
I’ve prayed countless prayers of forgiveness for others . . . and then prayed them again, 10 seconds later, when I’m seething once more.
And I’ve tried over and over to forgive myself . . . and then found I’m still not quite beyond the reach of shame’s bloody club.
Learning that forgiveness is a practice, not a “one and done” event, has helped me tremendously. Rather than framing each need to forgive yet again as a failure, I am learning to see those moments as opportunities to heed Jesus’ call to forgive outrageously. (Matthew 18:21-35)
And, of course, the deepest and hardest truth to face is actually quite simple:
I struggle to forgive others, and myself, because I struggle to accept God’s freely offered forgiveness.
As someone who’s lugged around a mountain of shame for most of my life,
I struggle to drag my eyes
away from the ever-lengthening list of sins,
both mine (shame on me!) and others’ (shame on them!),
turning my gaze to the unconditional love and unmerited forgiveness God always extends.
Sisters in Christ, I almost backspaced those ^^ sentences into oblivion.
It’s really hard, and scary, to be honest about this.
But He is patient, and kind, and He hasn’t given up on me.
He and I are working on this.
I’m coming to understand the Gospel in a new and different way, and, I hope, making peace with forgiveness to myself and others as He and I continue to walk together.
For those of you who struggle with forgiveness too, here’s a collect I wrote to refocus our hearts on the Gospel in moments of wrestling.
A Collect for When We Struggle to Forgive
God of scandalous forgiveness,
Who, for the joy set before Him, absorbed into Himself the daggers of our sin yesterday, today, and tomorrow:
when our hearts struggle to forgive, captivate us anew with the truth and beauty of the Gospel.
Raise our gaze from those who’ve hurt us
to the One Who was hurt for us,
that we might feel the weight of bitterness slip from our shoulders as we become strong and gentle conduits of Your love, mercy, and grace,
through our great reconciler, Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.
Today’s Collect Components
Address: God of scandalous forgiveness,
Doctrine: who, for the joy set before Him, absorbed into Himself the daggers of our sin yesterday, today, and tomorrow:
Petition: when our hearts struggle to forgive, captivate us anew with the truth and beauty of the Gospel.
Raise our gaze from those who’ve hurt us
to the One Who was hurt for us,
Aspiration: that we might feel the weight of bitterness slip from our shoulders as we become strong and gentle conduits of Your love, mercy, and grace,
Mediation: through our great reconciler, Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.
Meditate & Reflect
1) Read 1 John 1:6-10 slowly, letting the words roll over you. Those are hard ones, aren’t they? We’d rather they roll over us than grant them entrance to our hearts because they sting a bit don’t they?
2) As you read the 1 John passage again, which phrases stand out? Identify both the warning and the invitation these words hold, then flip your pages to Luke 6:27-36 and read on!
3) It can be pretty challenging to read these verses when we focus on the names and faces of the ones we struggle with or who have wounded us. What happens when you flip the script and consider how Christ has treated you despite your sinful rebellion against Him?
4) Ask the Spirit to move in your heart with His light as you meditate on His Word! Forgiveness is hard, but Christ led the way for us in this hard work!
Worship
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